I've been meaning to build our bed for years now. Literally, for YEARS! My brother was here in September and I was going to do it with his help! I had every intention of finishing it. Then I remembered my first year with P. I realized having a wood border around the mattress and lifting the mattress off the floor, even minimally, was going to make things harder on me.
P fell off our old, high bed twice and fortunately was ok. But it was scary and awful and I felt like a horrible mom for not being more attentive. I couldn't leave her alone for two seconds though! Watching her so intently was hard with one. Forget it with two! Juggling two is a whole new story requiring a new skill set! So I made the decision to forgo a stylish bedroom for the time being.
Today as I watched Gemma get out of bed on her own I was grateful I left the mattress on the floor. It's given me months of peace and now it's giving our 10 month old a sense of independence and confidence in herself. The look of pride on her face when she got down was priceless. In fact, the very first time she did this she looked at me with the biggest smile and said "Woooow" with amazement, pride and awe in herself. And come to think of it, I think it's one of her first words. Mama, Papa and wow! Not bad!
I know....we look like a bunch of poor college kids or hippie parents with our mattress on the floor but it is what it is when you have babies. It's the safest arrangement. On nights when Dave has to get up and go to work extra early I have both girls in bed with me. I never worry if one of them should roll out. We're not even a foot up!
And so...at this point in time: February 2013 with two kids and five years in the house this is what our bedroom looks like. Still a long way to go from where I want it to be, stylistically, but we're in a happy place, emotionally. And I think that's a good place for a home.